So, Jared’s takeaway from the Outer Banks email is that he needs to find and vet a woman who he doesn’t need to compromise with at all, and does whatever he wants unflinchingly 100% of the time, cool. Reign it in, bud. If a person has limited vacation days a year, it’s fair to want to spread those out and see other places.

Editing to add: It's very easy to predict Jared's advice now. Women should always be prepared and think of every little detail AND they should always adjust their own lives to fit their partner's needs. Men never need to change, and it's their partner's responsibility to know that they'll never change. This man seriously knows so little about how to be in a relationship, I can't believe they're still letting him give advice. I've listened for years and found the show fun and the advice really helpful while I was dating. However, in the past year or so, the show has taken a nosedive. Jared is almost unbearable to listen to these days. I find it so hard to believe he wants a relationship, or even a girlfriend, when he seems to hate everything about women. His misogyny is out of control and today's vape episode really highlighted it. The way he bent over backwards to blame the writer for her boyfriend's bad habit was WILD. He can't even acknowledge "Hey, yeah he probably downplayed how much he vaped." It's not that deep. Nope - he goes straight to "He must be vaping more because his annoying girlfriend is stressing him out!!!" What??? He also has a way of reading women's emails in a tone that always makes the women sound worse than what they've actually written. Jordana tries to give good advice, but Jared just talks over her half the time. It's also hilarious to keep hearing him talk about how easygoing he is when every story he tells about an interaction with a stranger or his family shows that's he's not easygoing at all. In fact, he seems to be really particular about what he wants to do/how he wants to be approached. He gets insulted at the tiniest compliment. I think he legitimately thinks that because of the internet, women have it so much easier and it's so hard for men, which is just not true at all. And, his advice is just bad now. He may be 10% away from 40 year old single male comedians who have issues with their moms, but he's probably at least 50% away from the myriad of men I know. But, I keep listening. I keep yelling at the podcast in my car. The show is like a train wreck now - I can't look away. But definitely don't take a lot of their advice lol.

I’ve been a u up fan, subscriber and have been to many comedy shows with Jared. I love this pod and it’s been my favorite since it started . The recent episodes have become so intolerable and miserable that I am shocked by how bad they are. Unlistenable & can’t believe that I am able to say this, I feel sorry for Jordana trying to make light of his stupidity and his lack of maturity and misery. It’s really unfortunate that the pod unfolded this way, I don’t know how they can improve with such a negative and obnoxious person with offensive and condescending views. Shame.

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Thank you Jordana for calling Jared out on his hypocrisy -please keep it up! I would love if they added another male host to this show who is in a relationship…Jared has his funny moments but his takes are totally skewed towards a “commitment-fearful guy” perspective. I would love to counter that with a man who is more of a “relationship guy.”

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I was going to leave a review about the boyfriend vaping episode and how unreasonable Jared was, and i saw someone else beat me to write my exact same thoughts. Scroll down to the other review with the same title name and that sums up my thoughts. Would say he needs another long vaca but he’ll prob just come back and complain about that too. Idk maybe it’s time Jordana refreshed her co-host with someone with a higher EQ, & who can be introspective and rational? Saying this as a subscriber. We’re tired.

I’ve been a long time listener and it pains me to write this but Jared has become unbearable to listen to. The way he blames women for everything, always takes the man’s side, and constantly dismisses emailer’s feelings is disgusting and I’m honestly so fed up with him. I’ve been a listener since 2018 and a benefits subscriber since they first came out with it but I’m debating canceling it as I can’t take another month of Jared whining about the same problems but never doing anything to try and fix them. Jordana (I know you’re probably reading this) - you are the star of this show and the only reason I keep listening.

I’ve been listening to this show for years and it’s really taken a turn. There are two uneducated and uncredentialed people with a predominantly young, female audience giving advice that is at best misguided and misogynistic and at worst downright dangerous.

Pls talk about the Netflix show Nobody Wants This!

Please add timestamps for when you actually get to what the listeners want to hear. I’m hanging on by a thread.

My fav podcast i am always laughing but i cant stand how jared ALWAYS defends the male no matter how dead wrong/hurtful they clearly are. they really should start advising accountability for some of these guys. Jordana has no problem pointing out when a female is in the wrong, it should be done both ways.

Jordanna is normally great but today’s podcast was torture for the first 10 minutes. Like like like like. Seriously? How long have you been doing this?

You guys are the best. Please go back on a U Up Live tour asap.

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Literally cracking up the entire episode

Whether you’re just navigating a breakup, single, or coupled up, this is a must listen. This is the only podcast I find myself actually laughing out loud at.

The best podcast on this wide free internet. Will never get enough of J&J!

Would love to hear J&J discuss the new rom com series Nobody Wants This!

Keep them in! Jordana continues to get funnier.

Love the show been listening forever! Jared and jordana are getting funnier and funnier. Jared the comment about grubby little fingers had me dying

Hey J&J ! I am a long time listener and subscriber. I came here to give 5 stars & comment on the Kaitlyn Bristowe situation. I don’t have a stance on whether she should have went on a date with this person’s ex. I agree with Jared, it’s just a difference in how people view relationships, friendships, etc. But I do think that when she made the joke about sending the picture, it felt childish and seemed out of left field. In some way, it kind of proved the point of feeling like Kaitlyn isn’t a good person. On top of that, obviously Kaitlyn knew this would all get out. It seemed like Kaitlyn was trying to be strategic with how people found out to make herself look better. But anyway, I love the show and love these kinds of discussions.

Casual was also my gateway to chappell roan (pronounced chapel I believe) I LOVE THE READING AND ANALYSIS OF THE LYRICS

Was just traveling with my husband he got the upgrade to first and I was in comfort and we gave it to the girl who was next to me. Albeit 90 minute flight and was a two by two in comfort.

Somehow I still think it’s over already?! I need it to be longer lol . And ofcourse I’m a benefits subscriber.

I’ve been an avid listener since 2018. The show has evolved so well over the years. I recommend it to all of my friends.

Update 2: continue to love it. Great new segments and long intros continue to be my favorite. Make them longer? 😀 Update: don’t change anything and keep long intros!!! If it was up to me, I would want them longer. Going off track is where the magic happens 😍 I have been listening to the show for few years and continue to love it! I think you have thoughtful discussion of difficult topics. I agree with the latest benefit episode- don’t listen to haters! It is not feedback- it is rambling of bored people who cannot have a meaningful discussion or handle different opinion. Listening to that only can hurt and crate zero benefit! Thank you for all you do!

Both of them could benefit from taking an executive presentations class so Jordana could get rid of her constant “ums” and “likes” and Jared could stop sounding like a stuttering seagull “I I I”. Would make the podcast much more tolerable to listen to. Update: unsubscribing and deactivating benefits membership after today’s insufferable podcast with Belle. She is so pick me. We’re paying to hear about interesting topics and so far all it’s been is about Jared’s depressing life and his refusal to go to therapy and these weird random episodes. The pod is getting so stale and I think they miss the mark with a lot of advice. Jared is way too cynical and I don’t believe he’s 10% away from every guy at almost 40… especially considering most men his age have managed to settle down without being an ahole about every woman

Who the F cares about the story that was the most boring episode I have ever heard and I have listened to every single episode. Do better J&J.

Writing a review because I know Jordana reads them! Jordana I think you would love the song Don’t Smile from Sabrina Carpenter’s new album. It’s exactly what you and Jared have talked about recently about how a girl wants a man to miss her and be the best thing he ever had after a break up, or situationship ending. Would love for you both to listen and talk about it!

Love listening every week! I initially found the pod after listening to betches brides with jordana and love her takes! I’m married but still relate to all the content from my dating days and just relationships in general. J&J have a great dynamic - keep it up! Loved the Kaitlyn bristowe episode, it made me a fan of hers too now 😊

Used to really enjoy this podcast but as a long time listener, It's remarkable how you consistently miss the mark with your perspectives. It seems that since getting married, you've lost touch with the challenges women face in dating. Your "superior" attitude is off-putting. Remember, you can't distance yourself from your own experiences—showing more empathy in your responses would be greatly appreciated.

Jordanas laugh is the best. I say it every time I hear it. Love the pod!

Long time listener and subscriber. Love the pod!!! Please don’t put ads in the subscriber edition.

Hiiii I am a subscriber, I don’t think that embedding a Nyx ad in the middle of a lighting round (episode from 8/20/2024) is quiiiite honest. Plz don’t do that, I’m literally paying to not hear those ads :/

I listen every week. Love it! As an aside, my husband wasn’t excited about going to Paris either, and it ended up being one of his favorite cities.

I have listened to this podcast for years! I loveeeeeee it. I am a subscriber and it has been the best purchase ever. It’s funny because I am married and I still learn a ton from J&J! Keep up the great work!

I’ve been listening to this podcast for a couple months and I love it. Advice podcasts are my favorite genres of podcasts. Jordana and Jared have a great chemistry on the pod and balanced each other out so well. They give great, well-rounded advice. I am married with a baby and this pod brings back some of the excitement you miss when you and none of your friends are dating anymore lol. I am going back and listening to old episodes to get more!

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Gonna miss this show. Just wouldn’t suggest this advice from Jared recently.

If you’re gonna discuss trending topics, it’d help to know what you’re talking about. I understand why you’re doing it - it’s good for the pod to talk about what the kids are talking. It’s happened a couple of times before but most recently the tweet talking about the guys and Casa Amor. I think knowing the full context in which the tweet you referenced was written (at least watching the casa episode) would’ve help you’re judgment. Just talking about topics without context just makes y’all seem like old people who don’t really know what’s going on.

The Jordana’s house commentary — it’s hysterical!! I’ve been following Betches from the start you all deserve your mansions and pools and success 👏👏👏

I used to find Jared’s Benefits Episodes honest and raw. He talked about his past and the ever present fear of commitment. Years later, it’s enough. Jared is jaded and unwilling to change his behavior, but at the ready to complain about the same things week after week.

Jared is so funny. Have been listening to older episodes and he cracks me up to tears. Just listened to the one where he fakes a phone call from Harry about their dad’s heart attack.

I love the subject matter, but Jared needs to take it down a notch. He’s yelling into the mic and being so interrupty and loud that some days I just can’t stand it and move on to another pod.

I’ve absolutely loved this show since the beginning and look forward to these episodes every week. Especially with the dynamic between Jordana and Jared. However in the last few months it seems like every question is so similar about a man in early dating not ready to commit. It would be nice to see a more variety of topics about people in all different stages of relationships. The topics are just all blending together and getting stale.

Love the duo of J&J. They make dating topics entertaining and educational. Jordana is the calm steady person that is needed to balance Jared’s eccentricity and blatantly honest advice . They are the perfect combination of both sides of the dating spectrum. I’m a benefits subscriber and it’s worth the $3/month. I listen to this podcast almost every day. It’s helped me realize so much about what I want and should expect in a relationship. I’m single for the first time in over a decade and it’s helping me navigate the path of dating.

Love this show and always will but Jared is getting out of control!!! Let Jordana speak!!! It makes it so hard to listen sometimes when Jared interrupts 10 times in a single story and can’t stay on topic. I love you but PLEASE!!!!

I love you guys, but this show has just become Jared’s place to dump every single thought/story/plug/rant that crosses his mind. Stop interrupting Jordana!!

I love that the Rachel Feinstein one was a guest episode with someone who has a great career AND put a lot of effort into dating, who felt frustrated with dating, shared super honestly and hilariously about relationships that didn’t work out and getting dumped, and can share now from the perspective of being happily married – while still being real about that too 😂🙌🏽 More of this!