Advocating illegal surgical drugs that can cause death as an answer to get over narcissistic abuse is about the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard of. Maybe making HEALTHY choices would help.

Love it! Best psychology lessons for self awareness and self love! Thanks!

Great podcast. Listening hurts.

I wish I had this resource when I was 19 yo. It would have saved me years and years of pain in abusive relationships. If I can say anything, listen, then listen again. Get your community organized (no matter how small) and leave him. Do no contact, no matter what. You must trust this more than anything else - never contact him again. Your friends and family and community should act as your wall. I think as women we are gifted a faint, small internal voice within ourselves, saying it’s not safe, go. Listen to her. Please, listen and go. What is unknown and not lit is scary, but you are brave. Big hugs to the hosts. Bravo on giving emotions and the abused words and stories and a space to exist 🌻

First time listening today. I’ve listened to hours and hours of Narcissistic abuse podcasts. The one I listened to today episode #63 gave specific examples like a pattern of the N continually critiquing how one does things like the laundry, shifting conversations with Red Herrings; never able to settle an issue. The topic of how one speaks to you-I’d like to hear more about this b/c I myself am working on to changing my tone of voice & being more respectful-not demeaning others’ viewpoints. If that was the model we grew up hearing as children, we may unknowingly be sarcastic. The more examples the better! Dr Henry Cloud, author of “Boundaries” calls one key to healthy relationships is “Mutually Agreed Upon Exceptions” which are often impossible with a Covert or Overt Narcissist.

Thank you for this podcast

I’m going through a break up w a woman that drained me of everything. My boundaries, my pride, my money. I became a person who I didn’t know and she made me think itge relationship problems were all me. Stuff I never heard from other partners. I was abusive. I was a narcissist. I had borderline personality disorder. I’ve never heard these things but her family members told me she did but I still thought I was the problem. This podcast is so good I feel they know her personally. lol. It was invaluable to my healing and leaving.

So informative. I enjoy the interviews and the dual hosts. Like the conversational format and the sharing of studies as well as personal experiences. I would enjoy hearing more about sibling relationships and family narcissism/emotional abuse/financial abuse/ inheritance issues. Thank goodness my life partner is not a toxic person. In my late 50s after my generous and loving father died, my family dynamic totally changed. Suddenly my little brother became a tyrant and his wife and my mother his enablers. At 58, desperate, and wondering “what is wrong with me, why can’t I get along with my family?” , I finally googled the question and thankfully found sites and experts on narcissistic abuse - both covert and overt. Wow. All the signs, the red flags, were there. Never too old to learn, though not a lesson I am thrilled about. I have gone no contact ish and am working to be healthy , still — coming from a culture that honors family , it is hard to speak about this with others or to come to terms with it myself. I keep wondering when my little brother decided he hated me. I just remember babysitting him and protecting him. To this day, despite his being horrible, I worry about him. He is not dead, but lost to me.

I don’t know who is who in the podcast but I completely relate to both hosts! So much knowledge and absolutely so much real talk and vulnerability!! I just finished the episode about “how did I fall for this person and I feel so stupid” but after listening…I’m like…oh my goodness - were they on my dates? did they read the notes on my telephone? Just amazing! Thank you for exposing this behavior and all the great fact-based education that can be gleaned from your episodes!I just left a relationship with a COVERT narcissist and I’m here to tell you that the COGNITIVE DISSONANCE is a real thing especially because I now have words for why I flipped between staying or leaving for an entire year (flipping both ways almost every waking hour of each day) I am about to finish all of the archives and will patiently wait for more. Thank you again and again!

When I started this podcast, I kinda assumed the co-hosts were armchair psychologists, and after one episode i couldn’t have been more wrong. The co-hosts are extremely experienced and qualified to discuss narcissistic abuse. This is one of the most interesting, REAL, honest, bold, podcasts. I’m listening because I’m pretty sure my best friend just married a guy who’s doing every tactic, subtly and charismatically. The wedding has red flags everywhere and I felt so sick. I can see through him like cellophane. But I’m also learning to be compassionate for my friend despite her cutting me out of her life. It’s all so confusing and I’m grateful for the education

I have heard all of the podcasts and man I loved them all! Very informative and helpful on dealing with narcissistic abuse and knowing ourselves as we tend to forget during the time of abuse Thank you to both of you ladies! Keep up the good work so we all can learn and stay safe

I have been in a very abusive relationship that was in the trauma bond stages, so deeply, that I didn’t even recognize it. After listening to these two women, I was deleting and blocking my abuser before the episode was even over. I have never felt such a relief, and I slept through the night for the first time in 12 months. These women make so so much sense. Thank you so much, you have saved me. This level of clarity and wisdom is what keeps us safe, and what I needed to hear. Because my abuser is a covert, there isn’t a single person on planet earth (that I know) who could justify or validate my experience. This podcast has given me that gift. One million thank yous, ladies.

Having now realized I was in a toxic Narcissistic marriage these episodes help to wrap my brain around all the integral parts of this parasitic relationship. I cannot wait to heal all the parts in me and these shows help to find positive ways to move forward. Thank you.

I am in the middle of a giant change in my life. I was raised by a narcissist father with BPD. I have ALWAYS felt stunted. Today you hit me in my soul. You said “paralyzed” and I lost my breath. I married a narcissist. I am only now realizing this 2 weeks from our 15th wedding anniversary. I am not done with the second episode yet but I think you may have just changed my life. So thank you.

A pod for when you are in the eye of the storm. Completely documented what I am feeling right now and it's been so helpful. One of 4 pods I am using to guide me through the hardest thing I have ever had to go through.

I have struggled my entire life with something I couldn’t put a name to. And now I have names…narcissistic abuse, cognitive dissonance, trauma bonds - just to name a few. Dr. McAvoy has her own experience with narcissistic abuse - which may be why she is so incredibly passionate in how she shares her life’s work and experiences. She speaks to you in a way that is so clear and understandable to the lay person. So incredibly helpful. So happy to finally find a professional that shares, informs and teaches the ways she does. So very thankful!

I just finally got out of a narcissist relationship (hopefully for the last time). I hope I can stay strong. But I feel as though educating myself and learning more and more about narcissism and other’s experiences has helped me so much in finally breaking the chains of my relationship and has made me stronger to leave. It hard to hear but it’s the tough love that we sometimes need to hear to grow and I feel this podcast has helped me, personally. I truly recommend this for those who are trying to get the courage to find that strength to take a step towards moving out of that toxic relationship. It’s NOT easy. I know this and I KNOW everyone listening and speaking in this podcast knows this but that’s why listening to these episodes helps and you are NOT crazy. No matter how many times your ex or current partner may have told you this (because I was told this more times than I can count).

After listening to the breathless opening about her personal experience the conversation quickly turned to generalize these scenarios as exclusively male aggressor to female victim and how we need laws and training on toxic male behavior…just went on and on… After just extricating myself from an emotionally abusive marriage with a narcissist female with borderline personality disorder… I was actually hurt by this…no one believes you if you are a guy, you are wrong and perceived as the aggressor no matter what…I got treated like an emotional whipping boy for 9 years and still had to give her the house and 50%… Can you imagine if a rape victim had to pay their rapist because the court said it was the victims fault????? Doesn’t matter if they are lawyers, or podcasters, no one can or will believe that you as a man were the victim of anything…lawyers will tell you “unless you have a gunshot wound with video, you can’t win this…” These granola eating do-gooders are so blind to their own prejudice it’s disturbing…maybe take a minute from seeing the ill in others and have a nice long honest conversation with yourself about your worldview… Thanks for not helping, as I try to find a resource to heal that isn’t the Depp v. Heard trial…

To hear this all thru the words of a PhD just makes me feel so much better about my current situation. Each podcast just shines so much light and explains my marriage. Beyond grateful I found you. Samantha